The Number One Fact That Grandparents of Children on
The Autism Spectrum MUST Recognize
The quality of the parenting is not the issue which created the autism, nor will simple discipline, traditional parenting strategies, or “tough love” be enough to help a child with autism create long term success. Chances are, your grandchild’s parents (your son or daughter) are already feeling the stress of raising a child with special needs, so to blame their parenting for their child’s difficulties is unfair, and will probably spark a negative reaction. Children with autism usually require strategies adapted to their special way of interpreting the world in order to succeed. These are not the same strategies that you used with your children, or that might be effective with grandchildren who are not on the autism spectrum.
The more we understand about the unique dynamics of autism, the more we embrace it and gain knowledge, skills and tools to navigate the experience effectively, the more we can support our grandchild and his or her parents, and the better chance our grandchild will have to succeed in life and function in the world independently.